True happiness can only be attained by assuming our Islamic responsibilities. Being a good Muslim wife is one of your duties in the name of Allah. For over three centuries, different pseudo-scholars have been trying to tell how to lead their lives and make this world a better place. Instead of making this world a better place, they have disrupted the natural order of things and have made us do horrific things. From the times of Mary Wollstonecraft to the consequent waves of feminisms, these so-called learned “humans” have been telling other humans what to do with themselves. They have only brought disasters in the world, fighting over petty squabbles and killing billions of people in the last three centuries. Only by following the orders of Allah, can we be happy and lead a prosperous life.
From the viewpoint of Islam, it has been regarded as a thing of the most importance to be a good wife. Allah’s Prophet, Sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam,said,
“If I were to order anyone to prostrate to anyone else, I would have ordered women to prostrate to their husbands, because of the rights that Allah has given them over them.”
(Sunan Abi Dawud and Jamia at Tirmidhi)
A good wife combines in herself three qualities:
- She pleases her husband when he sees her, by taking care to appear beautiful before him
- She obeys him when he gives a command
- She does not go against his wishes regarding her person or property.
A true Islamic wife should receive her husband kindly and with a beautiful appearance when he comes home. She should try not to neglect her husband’s needs nor ignore his demands. The more a wife takes care of her husband, the more she will be loved. Most husbands consider their wives care of them as an expression of their love. Allah’s Messenger Sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said:
‘Any woman who dies, and her husband is pleased with her, will enter Paradise.’
A good wife supports her husband all the times; good or bad and shares his joys and sorrows. She should discuss family problems with her husband to alleviate any later problems or misunderstandings. She should shower her husband with companionship and honor. It is for her to hold her husband’s close relatives in respect and treat them kindly, which is a mark of respect and honor for the husband.
Always getting into arguments with the husband and by showing ingratitude could lead to hatred and deterioration of the relationship. A wife may not give alms from her husband’s property without his permission. She should not speak about sexual matters between herself and the husband to anyone else as there are severe warnings of doing so. She should not be afraid to express her love and affection for her husband as it will please him and bind him closer to the family.
She should pray five times a day and make a schedule for Zikr and reciting Holy Quran; this way she will attract blessings of Allah in the home.
This list is not exhaustive, rather a short one. The main idea is to understand the rights of a husband and showing gratitude towards them. Prophet Sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam warned women that there ingratitude will lead them to the fire. As said earlier, living within the boundaries set by Almighty is the only way to salvation and all other ways are evil.
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